Saturday, July 19, 2008

Ego

There's a saying which I found quite different than what I usually heard.
It says;

"You love someone not because of who she/he is,
but because of who YOU are when you're with her/him"

I totally agree with it,
I'm not saying that the first line is wrong,
but if you can get your mind to think deeper, you'll know what I mean.
Love can change a person, an evil one can become an angel and it works the other way around as well.
I'm ego, at least thats what my close friends told me.
I believed that loving someone doesn't mean you always have to express it with words or some sort of actions. For me, what matters is what you've got deep inside your heart. To be honest, I've never even told my parents how much I love them, not until I got separated thousands of miles away from them where I started to express my love for them through what I wrote in cards, although it was nothing flowery in nature, I mean I put my message in between the lines. It's not that I think it is unnecessary, but thats how I've been raised since I was born. My parents didn't show me how to express affection or love to my loved ones, even they were being so strict to me since I was small.

Some people complained that I never showed how much I love them. The truth is, I don't know how to, and although they taught me how, I still felt awkward, so I kept telling them, don't force me to do something that I'm not familiar with.
However, things changed a long time ago when I met someone who changed me without I even realized it. I did things I never thought I'd ever do to anyone just to show my love. Even I myself was surprised that I did all those things I've never done before.

And do you think that was a good start?
Hell no. I regret what I did, coz they were all just a waste of time. What I did has never been appreciated. I felt stupid that I tunjukkan betapa sayangnya I pada dia, both by words and actions. And since that moment ever, I promised that I wont let the same mistake happen twice. No matter how much I love someone, takkan sekali-kali saya zahirkan secara terang-terangan, especially through words, cukuplah apa yg tersirat di sebalik perbuatan. If anyone thinks I don't care about them or appreciate them just because I didn't do what they expected me to do, sorry but I wouldn't stand up for myself and explain anything, you can think whatever or how ever you wish to think, because maybe you just don't know me at all. I wouldn't let myself be so transparent that everyone can see what I feel.
I'm that mysterious afterall, ain't I?

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